At the rec level, its probably good for all kids to get fairly equal playing time; theres no reason to turn anyone off at that point.
Exactly - my goal coaching was never about scholarships or academies, it was to make sure the kids would love and play the game their entire lives. Its ridiculous to target any more than that for 99% of the kids. Of course, everyone thinks their kid is in he 1% and the rec coach is holding him back. If a kid has any shot at playing at an elite level, he'll/she'll stand out from the crowd and get all the minutes he/she needs and more.